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How to Boost Confidence, Productivity & So Much More

Hope your coffee is hot, this should take you about 1 minute and 53 seconds to read (According to Forbes, the average adult reads 300 words per minute)

Last week I saw a fantastic quote in a Facebook group.

It was a quote from ol’ Albie Einstein.

“Compound interest is the eight wonder of the world. He who understands it, earns it…he who doesn’t…pays it. Compound interest is the most powerful force in the universe.”
It’s the Slight Edge, the book I talk about all the damn time.

I was never a fan of the Seinfeld show.

Just didn’t see what all the excitement was about.

I was, however, a fan of how Jerry Seinfeld got started in comedy.

The story goes…

He credits his success to this dumb, yet wildly effective method. Every January, he would hang up a large calendar on his wall.

Every day that he wrote new material, he had the pleasure of drawing a big red “X” over that day.

Drawing the Xs was quite rewarding, so he continued doing it. Eventually, he created a chain of red Xs.

The idea was to never break the chain.

In fact, there is a website called, you guessed it…. http://dontbreakthechain.com/

I put my own twist on it, and took a page out of the Andy Frisella playbook, and am tracking my wins each day.

Here is my calendar hanging on my wall in my office with Ws….

W = Win the Day

I try and put daily deposits in four categories; mind, health, relationships & wealth.

Over the last eight days, I have been perfect.

Typically, I would get lazy around Thursdays/Fridays, and would slack off on the weekends.

Not no more.

Since tracking this, I have noticed…

  • A boost in confidence
  • A sense of accomplishment
  • Amanda & I getting along great
  • Much happier
  • An increase in mental clarity
  • More fulfillment
  • A drastic increase in productivity
  • More energy

A few of the many benefits and feelings I have experienced.This is such a stupid simple exercise, but it’s been so worth it.

Go out and buy a desk calendar.

Hang it on your wall.

Come up with 4 – 7 daily tasks that you want to complete each & everyday.

When you compete all the tasks put a X or a W on the day.

Do it again the next day, and the following day.

Do it for a week.

Report back to me.

You can do anything, once you stop trying to do everything. 

Adam Dukes

What Eminem Can Teach You About Business

Hope your coffee is hot, this should take you about 1 minute and 53 seconds to read (According to Forbes, the average adult reads 300 words per minute)

Did you know….

Eminem went to rehab in Brighton, Michigan.

A small town about 45 miles west of Detroit.

It’s where I spent the first 25 years of my life, before I traded the grey skies and snow in April for the bright lights of Sin City.

In fact, Annie, my younger sister, went to the same rehab, about 6 months after Eminem was there in 2008.

He put out a new album yesterday and for the last 12 – 15 years I’ve always been so excited for days like this.

Maybe it’s the old age, but I wasn’t too excited about it.

Truth be told, I didn’t even know about it till 9:02 pm on Thursday night when it was released (midnight east coast).

Anywho…

I was showing Amanda my favorite track on the album (arose), and she said to me…

“Turn it off, I can’t listen to it anymore

I was like huh?

And she said, “I can relate too much and it makes me sad

Not going to get into the details about that, but understood what she was saying, and it got me thinking….

Eminem is known to rap about his life, his struggles with his Mom, drugs, ex-wife, Dad to name a few.

He’s extremely vulnerable.

He’s arguably the best rapper of all-time, although I am a bit biased. He’s in the top 3/5 though.

Most rappers talk about the high life they live — cars, mon-ey, women, etc.

Very rarely does he rap/brag about that stuff.

Vulnerability = power.

It’s not easy, and one of my favorite books on the topic is Daring Greatly (purchase that book here) from Brene Brown.

People are CRAVING THE TRUTH.

You want to attract your perfect people into your tribe?

Share the real and the raw.

There is far too much bullshit online in the entrepreneurial space, and non-entrepreneurial space.

People constantly sharing their highlight reels.

People see through it.

Or most people do.

Time and time again, the more vulnerable I am when sending an email, publishing a Facebook post, putting out a YouTube video.

The bigger reaction I get.

Now, it does take me a lot longer to hit ‘publish’ on those posts, as it’s scary, but every damn time it’s worth it. I promise you that.

Here is an email I got from a lady a couple months back…

She’s commented on a few of my emails this year, and it ALWAYS makes me smile.

So this weekend, I want you to share a vulnerability with your tribe.

Send an email, post in your FB group, shoot a YouTube video, Instagram, wherever. Pick up the phone and call a family member or friend and share something.

I don’t care where at, just share something real & raw with your tribe.

I want you to pull an Eminem 🙂

And share with me how it made you feel once you share it.

This is from a Dad in our group, and how opening up really helped him…

We ALL have our battles.

I am constantly slaying daily demons (or trying to).

Self doubt is an everyday struggle for me, and often times 17 times per day. Sometimes more.

This is a rough time of year for a lot of people, too.

The holidays can be extremely stressful.

Know you’re not alone.

If you ever need to chat, this is a two-way channel.

Adam Dukes

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How the New England Patriots Can Help You Battle Complacency

It ain’t no secret…

I am a HUGE fan of Thomas Edward Patrick Brady.

And there is a big lesson that the 2007 New England Patriots can teach us.

That was the year he was tossin’ the pigskin to Randy Moss.

Moss caught 23 TD passes, an NFL record.

Brady threw 50 TD passes, an NFL record.

They set the single season record for most points in a season.

So what does this have to do with business?

YOU HAVE TO PLAY OFFENSE!!

Something I have battled for years in complacency.

It’s a dangerous place to be.

This past weekend, I was reminded of it once again.

A guy in our Dadpreneur FB group started his own Dadpreneur Facebook group.

At first, I was upset, angry. I was a bit jealous.

He posted about it in a large marketing group and got quite a few members from that post. Something I could have done, but never did.

Yesterday, I came to my senses, and it lit a fire under my ass.

I realized I have been playing small.

Admittedly, I’ve been lazy.

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I am no longer upset, but am now fired up. I am using this to my advantage.

Again, this is something we all battle.

You cannot get too complacent as there is competition out there.

Like Mark Cuban once said….

Work like there is someone working 24 hours a day to take it away from you.

It’s so damn true.

Don’t get complacent.

It’s a damn trap, that I don’t want you to fall in.

Learn from my mistakes.

Speaking of learning from my mistakes.

Dadpreneur Freedom is now live, and it’s 7+ years of my experience jam packed into a training program.

You can AVOID the truckload of mistakes I made.

The program is designed to help you make a bigger impact, while working less.

Adam Dukes

15 Things EVERYONE Wants

A quick post before I finish off this Ric Flair 30-for-30 ESPN documentary, which is excellent, by the way.

If you were a wrestling fan growing up, I highly recommend it. A look “behind the glitz & glamour” of it all, and quite sad. He still is, at 68 years old, addicted to the sport/fame of it all

Here is a GIF of the Dirtiest Player in the Game that I’ve now watched 76 times today…

Anywho…

Do you know what your prospects want?

I mean what they truly want?

This might seem painfully obvious to some, but I know a lot of Dadprenuers think they know what their market wants, but has never truly asked them. I definitely recommend you getting to know your market and asking these questions, but have some good news for you….

Earlier, I was reading a book on awareness, and the author shared a list of 15 things EVERYONE wants.

Here is his list…

  • To feel better…
  • To behave better…
  • To have more closeness, more love…
  • To have more mental clarity, to make better decisions…
  • To have more happiness…
  • To feel more security, more inner peace…
  • To be healthier, to live longer…
  • To have financial security, to make more mon-ey…
  • To have a labor of love….
  • To have doable challenges…
  • To understand people better….
  • To be understood by others…
  • To be more persuasive…
  • To make a difference….
  • To experience a sense of spiritual connection

The list above are SOLUTIONS to problems. Ideally, you should be solving a specific problem for your market. If you’re not doing that, it’s time to get back to the drawing board.

I know the feeling, so want to help you out with a question….

What is the ultimate OUTCOME your product or service provides?

It should be one (or more) from the list above. If not, dig deeper.

Then sell them THAT.

Don’t sell a feature or benefit or what it does.

They want to know how you can help them alleviate pain and/or satisfy a deep desire. Bonus points if you can achieve both.

Sell them what they WANT.

It’ll make your life a whole lot easier.

Adam Dukes

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How to Squash the Imposter Syndrome Feeling

WHAT IF THEY THINK I’M A FRAUD?

Have you ever asked yourself that question?

I have, and it’s called Imposter Syndrome.

What is Imposter Sydrome?

Per the Google machine: “Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon or fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

This is very common, and something a lot of people struggle with.

REALIZE THIS: It’s ok to have these feelings.

And you’re certainly not alone to feel this way, as you’re in good company.

And no, “good company” doesn’t mean me 😀

Here are some high achievers (good company) who deal with this as well…
Seth Godin, author of a dozen or so New York Times best selling books, STILL feels like a fraud.

Jennifer Lopez, once said “‘Even though I had sold 70 million albums, there I was feeling like “I’m no good at this.”

Denzel Washington, once said, “That last five minutes before you go on that first [Broadway] preview, if you don’t have that ‘what the hell am I doing here [feeling]’ if you don’t have that then they say it’s time to quit,”

Here are some of the thoughts that run through my head on a daily basis when posting on social media, FB groups, sending out emails, recording videos, etc…

  • What if they find out I’m a fraud?
  • What will my family/friends/colleagues/people I went to high school think?
  • What if I fail?

HOW I BATTLE THESE FEELINGS…

A little over a year ago, I created a “Brag Folder” in Dropbox, and anytime I get a compliment on anything, I take a screenshot of it.

At times, I will scroll through past screenshots. This has been extremely helpful, and I plan to one day, print them off, and hang them up in my office.

I got the idea from a blog post I read years ago, so can’t take credit for it.

Give it a try, it might help you out, if you deal with this type of stuff.

JUST REMEMBER: You’re better than you think you are

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Why You’re Being Selfish By Not Sharing Your Story

SHINE YOUR DAMN LIGHT!

We all have a story to share.

Your story IS worth sharing.

Sharing a weakness, and how you deal with it, can help someone.

Sharing a story about how you overcame a difficult time in your life, can help someone currently going through a similar struggle.

Sharing a story about how you beat an addiction, can give someone the inspiration and/or strength they need.

Your words matter.

Your story matters.

Your words, at the right time, can reach the right person, and have a MASSIVE impact on them.

Just last week, I shared a post in our Dadpreneur FB group about imposter syndrome (feeling like a fraud). It’s something I deal with, and many others do as well.

Last night, a fellow Dadpreneur, left a comment on my post. We both grew up in the same town, however, I have not had the privilege to meet him, yet.

Here is what he wrote…

 

 

 

This made my night last night.

It was exactly what I needed to hear/read, and came from someone who I have a ton of
respect for, and look up to.

Ironically, it was a post I was nervous to share. It seems the posts that I hesitate to post (nervous/scared/embarrassed/whatever) are the ones that seem to be the most impactful.

Vulnerability is powerful.

Your words matter.

Your story matters.

Brene Brown said

Owning our story can be hard, but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it

Act as a lighthouse, and always shine your light.

Share your wins & your losses, your ups & your downs.

You never know who’s watching, or the lives you could be impacting.

And one could argue, you’re being selfish by not sharing your story.

UPDATE: Ironically, I sent this out as an email, and received a reply from lady thanking me for the email, and letting me know it was an “email she needed to read after a long day at her corporate job”.

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