WHAT IF THEY THINK I’M A FRAUD?
Have you ever asked yourself that question?
I have, and it’s called Imposter Syndrome.
What is Imposter Sydrome?
Per the Google machine: “Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon or fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.
This is very common, and something a lot of people struggle with.
REALIZE THIS: It’s ok to have these feelings.
And you’re certainly not alone to feel this way, as you’re in good company.
And no, “good company” doesn’t mean me 😀
Here are some high achievers (good company) who deal with this as well…
Seth Godin, author of a dozen or so New York Times best selling books, STILL feels like a fraud.
Jennifer Lopez, once said “‘Even though I had sold 70 million albums, there I was feeling like “I’m no good at this.”
Denzel Washington, once said, “That last five minutes before you go on that first [Broadway] preview, if you don’t have that ‘what the hell am I doing here [feeling]’ if you don’t have that then they say it’s time to quit,”
Here are some of the thoughts that run through my head on a daily basis when posting on social media, FB groups, sending out emails, recording videos, etc…
- What if they find out I’m a fraud?
- What will my family/friends/colleagues/people I went to high school think?
- What if I fail?
HOW I BATTLE THESE FEELINGS…
A little over a year ago, I created a “Brag Folder” in Dropbox, and anytime I get a compliment on anything, I take a screenshot of it.
At times, I will scroll through past screenshots. This has been extremely helpful, and I plan to one day, print them off, and hang them up in my office.
I got the idea from a blog post I read years ago, so can’t take credit for it.
Give it a try, it might help you out, if you deal with this type of stuff.
JUST REMEMBER: You’re better than you think you are